More people are discovering the benefits of swinging and how much it impacts their relationships. It is about being open with your partner, having deep trust, and understanding each other’s needs. Finding additional partners to swing is easier nowadays, thanks to the available dating websites and swinger events that take place in all major cities and countries. However, to have fun, meet someone exciting, and not bother anyone, it is mandatory to know the etiquette.
Going to a swinger party might seem exciting and a great way to unleash your fantasies, but there are some rules in place that every participant should be aware of. Although events and parties differ since each has its own guidelines and regulations, some general rules apply to all of them. If you want to plan your first trip to the event and make sure you have the best time of your life, read some guidelines and stay informed about what is best to do, what to wear, how to behave, how to approach others, and what to expect.
What to Do at Swinger Events
The first thing to do after you find the swingers’ party you want to attend is research it. Every location is different and has a dress code, etiquette, and vibe. You should know if it is a good fit for you, how to arrive there, and not risk being left outside. Some clubs allow only couples or single women, so you might have issues getting inside if you are a single man. Some clubs are suitable for LGBTQ+, and they are inclusive. Other factors to consider are vetting and how the club vets people who get inside. Are toys allowed?
Set some boundaries for yourself as well. If you are going with your partner, discuss openly expectations, what you are each allowed to do if you want to swing together in the same room, or if you want to be separate. How much are you allowed to flirt? How much do you want to explore your sexualities? How far do you want to go? What do you expect from the event, from a memorable point of view, not only sexual? There are bars and playrooms at clubs, so you need to think about what works best for you.
Many people have misconceptions about swingers; they believe that such people go to events to have sex, but this is not always the case. There are so many other ways to have fun, explore your sexuality boundaries, and even meet someone exciting along the way. You can attend swinger parties only to watch, dance, make friends in the community, enjoy the spa (some venues have one), and attend events where you learn many interesting things.
Discussing Expectations with Your Partner
If you attend swinger events with your partner, have discussions beforehand to avoid uncomfortable situations and scenarios. The last thing you want is to arrive home and get into an argument, or worse, break up. You should be comfortable with your set limits and learn from every experience. It is up to you to discuss details and how much you want to share. Some swingers love practicing what they learned with others with their partners.
New couples that are discovering swingers might be the most reticent and shy about these private events. The good news is that you decide how much you interact with others, and if you don’t feel comfortable about doing something, you can politely refuse. Swinging is about setting boundaries with others and about consent. If you like someone, you can go further; if someone approaching you is not your type, you can point this out from the start.
Preparation
At a swinger’s party, it is all about being prepared and making all arrangements in advance. Before arriving at the event, have your ID, cash, and ticket or invitation. You can bring some personal essentials just in case, but some clubs provide them for all participants. Some swingers bring their favorite toys, while others dress up however they feel comfortable. The good news is that you can request more information to arrive prepared.
As for the dress code, wear what makes you feel sexy and confident. Some clubs have a required dress code; you must follow it to get in. You can wear a mask for more mystery; some even recommend it, especially if the theme is a masquerade ball. If no dress code is implied, you can leave everything to your imagination and wear what makes you feel good and gives you the best vibe.
Hygiene
Although it should be implied, everyone should be mindful of their hygiene when attending swinger events. Always wash yourself before going to the party, clip your nails, and avoid getting any infection. As for body hair, it is up to every person to decide what works best for them and how they like it. Also, if you bring toys with you, wash them thoroughly as well. It is common sense to become aware of cleanliness.
Don’t forget that everyone has boundaries, interests, hobbies, likes, and dislikes. Before engaging in any play, get to know the person and ask about their interests, what they enjoy doing, and what turns them out the most. You can find out if you are compatible or not, and in many situations, these discussions get two people closer. Not to mention that you decide how close you want to get at a swinger’s party.
Have Fun and Make the Most Out of the Time
It might seem like there are many rules and regulations but don’t forget to have fun when you attend swinger events. If it doesn’t feel comfortable at first, take things easy, and when a club doesn’t seem right, leave and find another event. If you don’t know how to find such events, look through swinger dating websites. Usually, they post about upcoming events in cities close to you.
A swinger’s party can be exactly what you need to expand your boundaries and find interesting people you can connect to on multiple occasions.